Going through divorce and dating
Through the anger and disappointment and every bitter feeling in between, he would have a spot in his heart carved out specifically for her. And there wasn’t a single thing I could do or hopeful wish I could make, that could possibly erase her from his history.Even—and especially—if he wasn’t willing to admit it. I learned that age is not indicative of the actual place a person is in their life.If you meet them too soon, it can upset the ex, confuse the children during a difficult time in their lives, and can even disrupt any custody evaluations.Tell him you want to meet his children, but that you’d prefer to wait until the dust settles.Just because a man has separated from his wife doesn’t mean he’s getting divorced.For your relationship to work, he must demonstrate that he’s serious about the divorce by filing the necessary papers, separating finances and property, and moving forward with the divorce process.But doing so can turn his worries into your worries and may create conflict between you.
To keep the relationship -- and yourself -- healthy, it’s important to set boundaries when dating a man going through divorce.We wanted different things because we had lived different lives, and it didn’t take very much time to realize the inevitable.And when I heard he had reconciled with his wife, I learned that there are far more important things than the perception of “winning”.Moving in with him over-involves you in his life and makes it impossible to set healthy boundaries.When it comes to your boyfriend’s divorce, he may be tempted to talk about it and you may be tempted to ask questions or even offer advice.