Dating a recently divorced man with children
Still, dating a guy who’s been divorced, just like dating a woman who’s been divorced, does come with a certain amount of baggage.It also comes with a few things you’re going to have to accept without conflict.Remember, ladies, there are three sides to every story: His side, her side, and what really happened. However, they also come with, I’ll say it again, a little extra baggage. They’re not going to be the party boy you might be used to, and they’re not always likely to put up with women who need to know their every waking moment. Speaking of going easy on him, you also need to move slowly in this relationship.Don’t judge their relationship; it isn’t yours and therefore, it really isn’t any of your business. If you’re dating a man who has been divorced, chances are he’s had his heart ripped out by someone he held dear.I can tell you that the kids are most willing to take out their pent up anger on you…the innocent new girlfriend who just happens to be proof that dad isn’t getting back together with mom. ” Don’t you remember how the twins acted towards dad’s new girlfriend (even though the new girlfriend was hideously rude and had a genuine dislike of kids…that’s not the point)?
You have no idea if these people liked his ex or couldn’t stand her, but you don’t want to be compared to her. Now, let’s assume his kids adore you and everything is going great. In fact, the better you get along with everyone else, the more likely the ex is to hate you for it.
Most divorcees come with miniature versions of themselves. Here are these little people with half your man’s DNA. His kids might look like him, but they’re still their own little people, and those people have feelings.
It makes you want to squeeze them and go all doe-eyed, doesn’t it? Most of the time, it’s pent up hostility at their parents’ divorce.
There may come a point when you have to stand your ground.
Perhaps his ex is trying to tell you who’s boss in HIS house, maybe she’s trying to talk badly about him, or butting into your relationship.