Dating a guy who doesnt want to settle down
Otherwise it’s just a distraction that temporarily tables the problem and allows it to get worse. I’m talking about learning new skills, becoming more invested in current affairs, reading more… If he thought he was finished gaining any kind of knowledge when he graduated from school, he’s still got a lot to learn.Knowing how to manipulate people into doing what you want is actually a pretty good skill to have. Sometimes a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do, and that isn’t always pretty.But if he’s not bringing you chicken soup when you’re sick or giving you rides when your car’s in the shop, this is not a guy you can depend on. A man doesn’t care what anyone thinks about him as long as he believes in what he’s doing. No one wants to be a full-on conformist, but we are living in a society, here.Instead of being upfront and honest with you when you’ve pissed him off or hurt his feelings, he just shuts down or finds subtle ways to make your life difficult. If this guy intentionally does the opposite of what’s expected from him just for the sake of being contrarian, that’s a sign of insecurity, immaturity or douche-baggery.
He’s learned nothing from the past and has no plans for the future.
He needs to know how to change a tire, mount a towel rack or at the very least, put together an IKEA bookshelf without bursting into tears.
I’m all for going out and getting blasted every once in a while, but after college, it shouldn’t be the whole point of every night out.
If he can’t send you a simple text just to let you know he’s not dead or in jail, odds are he’s fucking with your head.
When you ask a guy where he wants to go for dinner and he says something like, “I don’t care,” or “Wherever you want,” it’s usually true.