Conflict in dating and marital relationships
It’s important to understand these differences, and then to accept and adjust to them.Just as Adam accepted God’s gift of Eve, you are called to accept His gift to you.Barbara grew up in a country club setting near Chicago and later in Baytown, Texas.Barbara came into our marriage a refined young lady. It was as though we came from two different countries with totally different traditions, heritages, habits, and values. If bailing wire or a little duct tape wouldn’t work, he usually called the plumber or whatever repairman was necessary.The differences became apparent early in our marriage. Barbara had an Ethan Allen dream book and she was always looking at it. And so there we were, just married, with an antique table that needed refinishing. In some ways it saved our marriage in the early going.It was full of things made of solid cherry, solid walnut, solid mahogany. I didn’t understand why she wanted to go buy this kind of stuff when, in southwest Missouri, you could go to K-Mart and get a formica table with chrome legs and chairs! You can eat off that kind of table for years and it will never show any wear. We bought an antique and I was expected to refinish it—which created an opportunity for another major difference in our backgrounds to surface. He is mechanically gifted, can fix anything, and actually enjoys it. All of our differences are magnified in marriage because they feed what is undoubtedly the biggest source of our conflict—our selfish, sinful nature. Unnecessary suffering occurs in secrecy and isolation when you are too embarrassed to ask for assistance. By Linda and Charlie Bloom on March 31, 2018 in Stronger at the Broken Places Most couples wait too long to get help. on March 30, 2018 in Snow White Doesn't Live Here Anymore A dazzlingly honest memoir about teaching Shakespeare in Italy as his wife confronts cancer—and his students confront their own identity issues—"The Good New" is a must-read.
The answer for ending selfishness is found in Jesus and His teachings.Maintaining harmony in marriage has been difficult since Adam and Eve.Two people beginning their marriage together and trying to go their own selfish, separate ways can never hope to experience the oneness of marriage as God intended.God gave you a spouse who completes you in ways you haven’t even learned yet. Perhaps the biggest adjustment we faced early in our marriage grew out of our differing backgrounds.I grew up in Ozark, Missouri, a tiny town in the southwestern corner of the “Show-Me” state.