Building a godly dating relationship
You need continual encouragement to trust and obey the Lord. How will you encourage him or her daily if he or she does not trust the Lord? The world says that if you feel it, it must be legitimate. If you feel it and it is within God’s will, it is legitimate. You can think at the beginning that you can stop yourself short of marrying an unbeliever.
This is an important commitment that you must make as a Christian to see God’s blessing in your life in this area. I have heard Christians say, “I am only dating an unbeliever, I won’t marry him/her.” The Christian who does this is playing with emotional fire.
This is a boundary that you must draw when it comes to whom you allow yourself to “fall for” or even date. What happens if you date an unbeliever and develop the desire and romantic passion to marry him or her, now what are you going to do?
Is it possible to have romantic feelings for someone who is not a Christian? Your feelings are powerful and you are going to hurt yourself far worse than if you had never gotten involved.
This person is the “right one” according to the will of God. The right question, which the Scriptures teach is this one, “Is he or she the right kind of person to marry?
Finding the “right one” is the key to finding God’s will and marital happiness over a lifetime. " Prov. says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good, and receives favor from the Lord." In other words, it is good for a man to find a woman and get married. It is good for a woman to find a man and be married as well.
What will that unbeliever think about Christ and Christians after his painful experience with you?
You say, “but there are no Christians around who want to date me.” That may be the case, but that does not change what is God your Father’s plan for you.
This does not mean that Christians can’t have non-Christians as friends, but friendship is not a bond for life as marriage is.
” This is a clear instruction from the apostle Paul that Christians are not to be bound together (in a marital/physical relationship) with non-Christians.
Christians have been declared righteous in Christ and have been brought into the light of the truth.
It means God wants Christians to marry other Christians.
He wants his children marrying other ones who are his children.