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So, are there actually any chances of overcoming the religion issue, satisfying Jewish moms and establishing happy and long lasting relationships with typical Israeli men? There are three questions that the typical Israeli guy who is trying to hit on you will ask you: what’s your name, where are you from, and are you Jewish?
The first time, I couldn’t believe what I’d heard so I repeated, “Excuse me” several times just to make sure that I understood it well. Most of the time, the third question really was, “Are you Jewish?
But let’s try to be optimistic and consider the best case scenario: you and your Israeli boyfriend are happy together, have discussed the conversion issue many times and decided that no one wants anyone to convert. The Jewish mom will be very polite, serve a good dinner, smile, and compliment your education/profession but during dessert, she will start asking difficult questions.
It doesn’t matter how smart you are and how lovely your answers are – you can’t do anything about your roots and religion (or the lack of).
You will go through the long and hard process and again, if you are lucky and determined enough, you will finally become a Jew. Well, the Jewish mother has tons of qualities that you don’t have.
Do you think your problems will end the moment you officially become a Jew? You are so proud of yourself now–you converted, you got married and maybe you are even expecting a baby. She is a great cook, and you probably only know how to make a scrambled egg.
Now you have two choices – you can convert or you say goodbye to your handsome, intelligent and “open minded” boyfriend.
So, get ready for a fight and stay hopeful about finding an Israeli man who can happen.
Unfortunately, soon enough life showed me that they were rare exceptions.
Most non-Jewish girlfriends, fiancés and wives struggle with most of the things I’ve mentioned above.
Being in a culturally mixed relationship is, in my opinion, one of the most fascinating things that can happen to a woman – yet, it is one of the most challenging ones, as well.
Being with an Israeli man means facing religious differences so I sincerely recommend that you state your needs and feelings regarding this subject before getting into a serious relationship.